Monday, July 13, 2009

Marriage.... Before and After

Marriage - A social union of individuals that creates kinship. This is what the Wikipedia says.

We hear different definitions from people when we ask them about marriage. Some, who are married say that it is a part of life where we experience hell; some say that it is interesting part of life; some say that it is a relationship that binds a boy and a girl to.... blah.. blah. Well, these versions are all one side of the coin. The other side- those who are not married. These people say that it is the part of life that is yet to be explored; some say that it is a promotion from one stage of the life to another stage; a burden that draws comfort zone around an individual. It all depends on how people perceive it. Be it a love marriage or an arranged one, it is up to the individuals how they take it. All of us at one stage of the life will go through this transformation. I would say that it is a transformation that changes the life or lifestyle of a person.

Most of us tend to be very easy going before marriage. It is because; we depend on our parents mostly until our studies. When once we enter into job life, we start thinking differently. We start coming out of the comfort zones to explore life. Yes, it is during the time when we are independent.

When people get married, they change their thinking and by the way they change their life. I see people more reserved, after they are married. Until then, they will be so jovial and easy going. All of a sudden things start changing for them. They start behaving in a different manner. They don't accompany us for breaks, during office hours. They don't join us for lunch. They don't involve much in the gossips. They start developing a boundary around them. They don't seem to care for what is happening around them. And yes, they don't join us for the weekly movie outings and for hang around places. Yes, I understand that they need to spend time with their family. But, it should not isolate from doing other normal stuff.

Is marriage a barrier to an important relationship called friendship? I don't think so. I don't want it to be like that. I don't want my friends to be like that. I don't want my friendship to be weakend due to marriage. I want my friends to be the same with me as they are before. After all, marriage is just a part of Life and it should be digested along with all the other relationships.
Yes, I agree that marriage adds color to our lives. But, it shouldn't be at the cost of relations with friends.

Finally, a tid bit regarding marriage-


  1. I accept ur words.. Good one..
    Keep going..


  2. Nuvvu Cheppindi abbayilu matrame accept chestaru..Girls will forget all her past friends..

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  4. Hey Vijju...i totally agree wid u
    Even i want my Frnz to be the same with me after marriage also.That will strengthen our bond as years pass by.
    If the frnd has got married, he/she can come along with the life-partner and spend good time rather than getting isolated.

    Good are doing worthy things on your lappy these days :)

  5. @ Karpagam- Hi yaar.. good to know that you had a glance through my writing. thanks for that and hope to see your words in future also..
    @Sarath- Boss... Even girls want to spend time with friends after marriage. See the comment that Pratibha gave....;)
    @Pratibha- Hi... I am thrilled to you here. I hope this is the first time you commented here. Anyways, thanks for your words and for suppporting my views... :)

  6. Last time i read your blog,i felt a person whom i know at college is slowly evolving in what he is capable of in different areas,the way u presented this article made me feel like he observes things by staying on sidelines and presents very articulately the real life observations which when read makes you rethink to make some changes and get back to the normal mode by avoiding the reservations made

  7. Ramana- Wow... Great to see your precious words here. Well, its all part of a game called 'Life' and I am one of the player in it.There is lot to learn from our experiences which we can show case and show them. These things seem to be very interesting to read at some point of time in the future. So, finally I thought of giving a try ad finally I started.