Monday, July 27, 2009


First Relative In Every New Difficulty

This sounds to be a familiar definition of a friend. Yes, it seems to be very true way of defining it. A very special relationship that holds many of us in our lives. There is no one on this earth without a friend. Knowingly or unknowingly friends influence our Life. It is due to them, that we are in the current situation. We share many of our personal experiences (either good or bad) with them and pull them to our comfort zones. They make an indelible mark in our diaries.

Friends add color to our Life and thereby enhance the beauty in it.

Friends pour in enthusiasm when we are alone.

Friends give a value add to our very presence.

Friends give us strength when we are experiencing crests in Life.

Friends add flavour to the atmosphere that we are in.

Friends share with us, our happiest moments.

Friends digest with us, our sad moments.

Friends are like a catalyst to enhance our performance in career.

Friends are like lifelines when we have no options.

I would say that friendship is a gift given by God to make our life beautiful. Imagine yourself without friends- I know that the very thought is disgusting. If there are some persons whom we can't erase from our lives, (apart from our family members) definitely it is our friends. As years roll by, we may get in touch with new people always. But, if we sit and look back at the years passed by, we feel very happy about the sweet memories. The memorable school days, college days can never be replaced by any other best chapters in our life. When we enter into corporate field, the days during our training are also interesting. Those training days are the best ones in our career through our job.

One more important thing is that we should accept our friends 'as they are'. Its very important in strengthening the relationship and to avoid any misunderstanding.

To those who supported me in need;
To those who held out their hand at me when I am down;
To those who encouraged me when I am disgusted;
To those whom I shared with, my sorrows;
To those who helped to shape my career;
To those who laid the foundation to my success stories;
To those who are emotionally close to my heart;
To those who are in some way responsible for what I am today - I dedicate this post you. I wish all my Friends a very Happy Friendship Day.

Monday, July 13, 2009

Marriage.... Before and After

Marriage - A social union of individuals that creates kinship. This is what the Wikipedia says.

We hear different definitions from people when we ask them about marriage. Some, who are married say that it is a part of life where we experience hell; some say that it is interesting part of life; some say that it is a relationship that binds a boy and a girl to.... blah.. blah. Well, these versions are all one side of the coin. The other side- those who are not married. These people say that it is the part of life that is yet to be explored; some say that it is a promotion from one stage of the life to another stage; a burden that draws comfort zone around an individual. It all depends on how people perceive it. Be it a love marriage or an arranged one, it is up to the individuals how they take it. All of us at one stage of the life will go through this transformation. I would say that it is a transformation that changes the life or lifestyle of a person.

Most of us tend to be very easy going before marriage. It is because; we depend on our parents mostly until our studies. When once we enter into job life, we start thinking differently. We start coming out of the comfort zones to explore life. Yes, it is during the time when we are independent.

When people get married, they change their thinking and by the way they change their life. I see people more reserved, after they are married. Until then, they will be so jovial and easy going. All of a sudden things start changing for them. They start behaving in a different manner. They don't accompany us for breaks, during office hours. They don't join us for lunch. They don't involve much in the gossips. They start developing a boundary around them. They don't seem to care for what is happening around them. And yes, they don't join us for the weekly movie outings and for hang around places. Yes, I understand that they need to spend time with their family. But, it should not isolate from doing other normal stuff.

Is marriage a barrier to an important relationship called friendship? I don't think so. I don't want it to be like that. I don't want my friends to be like that. I don't want my friendship to be weakend due to marriage. I want my friends to be the same with me as they are before. After all, marriage is just a part of Life and it should be digested along with all the other relationships.
Yes, I agree that marriage adds color to our lives. But, it shouldn't be at the cost of relations with friends.

Finally, a tid bit regarding marriage-